Michael Swartzentruber, is the associate minister at FCC, Richmond, one of our original Surfing the Edge pilot congregations.
The Young Adult Ministry at FCC was meeting monthly to fellowship and grow spiritually together. Unfortunately, most all the participants recognized that the pattern of meeting, eating, and discussing had lost its luster. There was a general desire to connect in deeper ways and explore spirituality with fresh eyes. No more bland, often abstract, discussions about the theological ethics of the death penalty–however important that topic might be.
The missional posture is one that recognizes the importance and power of stories. So the young adults decided to experiment with a new form of fellowship: story-telling. Not just any story or set of stories, but our own.
Each month, two members of the Young Adult fellowship share a snippet of their personal story, in written form–about one typed page in length. These stories need not be profound or life-changing; but time and again young adults have felt secure sharing sensitive, vulnerable corners of their life with the group.
After the first story is shared, the story-teller sits back and listens as the group engages, processes, and wonders about the story. The facilitator leads discussion, asking: What emotions came up for you as you heard this story? What is a central image for you in this story? What is this story about? Where is God in this story? What similar experience or story connects with the one you heard?
What emerges is a network of new connections around someone’s experience. Often, new insights bubble up, participants are challenged and stretched, and God’s presence surprises us in life-giving ways. The story-teller is invited back into the conversation after sitting back and “overhearing” the group talk. Without fail, the story-teller will say, “The exercise of writing my story was a spiritual experience in itself–I knew it would be challenging, but I didn’t realize how rewarding it would be. And I learned so much in listening to you talk about my story. I’m so grateful to have done this.”
The purpose is three-fold:
- Connect - sharing our stories–especially in environments of safety, confidentially, and trust–enables us to intersect in honest, vulnerable, beautiful ways. We don’t often realize how similar our experiences are. And we don’t often realize the common threads that link our sometimes very different lives together.
- Learn - most of us can talk about ourselves in “chronicle” format: this happened, then that happened. Telling a story, however, is about what connects and directs those discreet events we experience. Telling our story is a challenge because we are invited to interpret our lives as if they are meaningful and significant. The exercise of sharing our story is an opportunity to practice living more meaningfully: in story-form.
- Grow - the questions challenge us to deepen our spirituality by identifying God’s presence in our lives. Not only do we interpret our own lives as meaningful, we interpret our lives in the light of God’s life and the stories of Scripture. We discover that our own stories intersect with the gospels, the exodus narrative, the church’s in Paul’s letters, and the mysterious symbolism of Revelation.
The by-products of this experience are excitement, deeper fellowship, and new life. Young Adults are inviting their friends to our fellowship and to our worship services. Young adults are processing pain and sadness in the security of loving community. Joy, gladness, and heart-felt laughter continue to punctuate our time together. One young adult shared her story with the congregation during worship as a sermon on laity Sunday. Youth Leaders are experimenting with implementing a similar format in youth group.
Stories are powerful, important elements for transforming communities of faith into communities of mission.
FCC’s story is still unfolding. We are learning to share our story as a congregation, looking for ways that our story intersects with and enlivens the story of our community. With confidence we can say that we are sure to find God’s presence where our stories collide.
Rev. Michael R. Swartzentruber
First Christian Church (Disciples of Christ)
Richmond, KY
Imagine, for a moment, inviting a group of your friends (churched and unchurched) into such a journey of personal story-telling. It has been Michael’s experience that when these conversations begin, the Spirit of God shows up in powerful ways. Thanks, Michael!
What’s your story? We would like to know.
